I recently attended a workshop on mindsets and also hosted a workshop for parents on the topic last month.
In a fixed mindset, people believe their basic qualities, like their intelligence or talent, are simply fixed traits. They spend their time documenting their intelligence or talent instead of developing them. They also believe that talent alone creates success—without effort.
In a growth mindset, people believe that their most basic abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work—brains and talent are just the starting point. This view creates a love of learning and a resilience that is essential for great accomplishment. Virtually all great people have had these qualities.
I have been reflecting on my own mindsets and have come to the conslucion that my mindsets change wtih the situation. Do I really practice what I have been preaching? For example, with my daughter, I praise her effort, practice and process not final outcome. I praise her positive habits. My son on the other hand, brings out the fixed mindset in me. I have caught myself saying things like, "I know you are smart, why can't you do this?" or "You need to study more." These offer vague solutions and are in need of more clarifing comments. The growth mindset focuses on being a life long learner.
Where are you with this concept? Do you have a fixed mindset about a particular subject? Does your mindset change depending on which of your children you are talking to at the moment?
I plan to start making small focused changes in the area of mindsets. What about you? Are you up to the challenge? Don't hesitate to contact me if you would like more infor on the topic of mindsets.