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This page includes:
1. A How-To Guide for Making Friends in Middle School
2. Top-Ten Social Skills Kids Need to Succeed
“How to Make Friends in Middle School”
Show someone else a bit of kindness. The first step to making new friends in middle school is to get out and be the kind of friend you'd like to meet. When you see another new student struggling in some way, break the ice by offering a smile and some encouragement.
Keep a positive attitude. When your day isn't going your way, don't let it affect your whole outlook or take it too seriously. Other people will be drawn to your ability to laugh off little setbacks.
Nurture your talents and interests. Make friends with people you have something in common with. Sign up for extracurricular activities and you'll find kids who like what you like.
Introduce yourself. It's probably the hardest thing to do if you worry about rejection, but you'll never know whether that person sitting next to you in the assembly could be your new best friend if you don't say "Hi."
Enlist the help of your friends from elementary school. Just like you, they're in new classes with new people. Introduce each other to the kids you're meeting in class and after school, and you'll have a larger group of people to pal around with.
Invite someone over after school. Ask that kid from math class to hang out and stay for pizza. It's a great way to get to know each other outside the pressures of the school setting.
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(taken from eHow Relationships and Family Editor; http://www.ehow.com/how_2258653_make-friends-middle-school.html)
“Top Ten Social Skills”
Good manners and basic social skills such as taking turns can be just as important to kids’ success in school as a focus on reading, writing, and arithmetic. In the book The Social Skills Improvement Systemâ€”Classwide Intervention Program, Authors Frank Gresham and Stephen Elliott discuss the top 10 skills that students need to succeed based on the authors’ survey of more than 8,000 teachers.
The top ten skills:
1. Listen to others
2. Follow the steps
3. Follow the rules
4. Ignore distractions
5. Ask for help
6. Take turns when you talk
7. Get along with others
8. Stay calm with others
9. Be responsible for your behavior
10. Do nice things for others