Preventing bullying is a top priority for parents and professionals in our
school community. The behavior interferes with children’s ability to learn
and feel safe. Bullying is not simply a case of “kids being kids,” but is a
learned anti-social behavior that can be unlearned or, better yet,
prevented. As adults we need to create an environment in school and at home
where bullying and teasing are not tolerated under any circumstances.”
Everyone in our school needs to be committed to eliminating bullying
behavior of any type. Our goal is to help our students understand the
appropriate way to treat others, and to ensure that no one is victimized by
cruel or threatening behavior. As part of this effort we are working to
transform what experts call the “silent majority” into a “caring majority”
of students who become part of the anti-bullying solution. Elements of
effective anti-bullying efforts include:
Establishing clear consistent consequences for bullying behavior that all
children understand.
Incorporating positive behavioral interventions with loss of privileges or
other consequences.
Training for all school personnel including bus drivers, playground
monitors, after school program supervisors, etc.
Intervening immediately when bullying occurs, praising children when they do
the right thing, and offering children alternatives to bullying.
Teaching children to work together to stand up to a bully, encouraging them
to reach out to excluded peers, celebrating acts of kindness, and
reinforcing the availability of adult support.
Ensuring that adults are visible and vigilant in common areas, such as
hallways, cafeterias, locker rooms, and playgrounds. This includes being
aware of behavior on the bus, and on the way to and from school for children
who walk, as these are important parts of the school day.
Parents can be active partners in preventing bullying. You are your child’s
most important source of support and learning for positive behaviors.
Following are a few suggestions to help your child.
Be aware of changes behavior or attitudes. Children who are bullied often
give signals that something is wrong. They may become withdrawn or be
reluctant to go to school and can experience physical symptoms such as
headaches, stomachaches, or problems sleeping. Talk to your child about
their concerns and reassure them that you will work with school to stop the
behavior.
Let us know if your child is being bullied. Call the teacher, myself or Ms.
Karger.
Offer strategies to counter bullying. Useful strategies include standing up
for themselves verbally, such as saying “I don’t like what you said/or did,”
or “You can say whatever you want but it’s not true;” walking away from the
bully; using humor (practice funny comebacks with your child); thinking of
positive images or statements about themselves to bolster self-esteem; and
getting help from an adult.
Praise your child for appropriate social behaviors. “Catch” your child doing
something good and offer positive reinforcement. Encourage him or her to
support their peers, (e.g., asking a lonely classmate to eat lunch or
sticking up for a child being teased). Monitor television and video games.
Help your child build positive social relationships. Identify peers with
whom they get along. Suggest things they can do together, (e.g., study,
each lunch, come home after school, go to the movies). Also, finding a
variety of activities that your child enjoys and does well can help build
self-esteem and confidence.
Use alternatives to physical punishment. Consistent alternatives, such as
the removal of privileges or additional chores, serve as more effective
consequences than physical punishment for inappropriate or difficult
behavior.
Supervise your children and their friends. Stop bullying behavior
immediately. Have the “aggressor” practice alternative behaviors.
It is very important our children know that adults can and will help them if
they are being bullied. Please encourage your child to talk to you, me, he
school counselor or another trusted adult if they feel threatened or
isolated.
