Back to School Transitions: Tips for Parents

(from the New York Association of School Psychologists)

Getting a new school year off to a good start can influence children's attitude, confidence and performance both socially and academically. The transition to a new school year can be hard.

Even children who are eager to return to class must adjust to the greater levels of activity, structure and for some, pressures associated with school life.

The degree of adjustment depends on the child, but parents can help their children and their family manage the increased pace by planning ahead, being realistic and maintaining a positive attitude. Here are a few suggestions if your child is experiencing anxiety:

Let your children know you care. If your child is anxious about school, send personal notes in the lunch box or book bag. Reinforce their ability to cope. Children absorb their parent's anxiety, so model optimism and confidence for your child. Let your child know that it is natural to be a little nervous anytime you start someting new but that your child will be just fine once he or she becomes familiar with classmates, the teacher and school routine.

Don't over react. If the first few days or weeks are a little rough, try not to over react. Your children  may experience separation anxiety or shyness initially, but teachers are trained to help them adjust. If you drop them off, try not to linger. Reassure them that you love them and will think of them during the day and will be back.

Remain calm and positive. Children who had a difficult time during the previous school year may be more fearful or reluctant to return to school. Reassure your child that the problem will not occur agiain in the new school year and that you and the school are working together to prevent further issues.

Reinforce your child's ability to cope. Give your child a few strategies to manage a difficult situation on his or her own. But encourage your child to tell you or the teacher if the problem persists. Maintain open lines of communication with the school.

Arrange play dates. This is a great way to encourage positive social relationships.

Plan to volunteer in the classroom. Doing so helps your child realize that school and family life are linked and that your care about the learning experience.

If your child demonstrates problems that seem extreme in nature or go on for an extended periods, you may want to contact the school to set up an appointment to meet with your child's teacher or the school psychologist.

It is wise not to over react. Most children are wonderfully resilient and with your support, encouragement and a few intervention strategies, will thrive throughout their school experience!