Dear kindergarten families,
This is your homework EVERY NIGHT - READ A BOOK TO YOUR CHILD, KISS THEM GOOD
NIGHT AND TUCK THEM INTO BED FOR A GOOD NIGHT'S SLEEP.
Other than that, as the year goes on, here are a few additions:
1. Read your most recent Open Court book to your family.
2. Read at least one different Open Court book to your family. You have over
25 choices at this point in the year!
Here is an article from www.scholastic.com family pages for kindergarten. I
recommend reading for every parent!
The 10 Best Ways to Help Your Kindergartener Succeed in School
A parent's to-do list.
By Ann E. LaForge
1. Encourage reading in any way you can
2. Treat your child as though he's an author
3. Make math part of her everyday life
4. Teach your child how to listen
5. Support your child's teacher and the school rules
6. Tell the teacher everything
7. Make sure your child is ready for school
8. Spend time in your child's classroom
9. Encourage responsibility and independence
10. Ask your child about school every day
1. Encourage reading in any way you can
There is no way to overestimate the importance of reading. It not only
enhances learning in all of the other subject areas, it exposes children to a
wealth of information and experiences they might not otherwise enjoy. It
stimulates the imagination, nourishes emotional growth, builds verbal skills,
and influences analyzing and thinking. In fact, according to every teacher I
spoke to, reading to or with your child every day is the single most
important thing you can do.
But you shouldn't worry so much about how well your child is reading in any
particular grade. Different children acquire reading skills at different ages
and in different ways. And you can't force a child who's not ready to start
reading.
But you can promote a love of reading by giving your child lots of fun
experiences with print at whatever level she's in. Here are some reading
milestones you should look for now (of course, your child's skill level may
vary), and specific tips on how to help.
MILESTONE 1: Your child enjoys looking at books and being read to, but
doesn't realize that the print — not the pictures or the reader — tells the
story.
How to help:
• Have your child dictate stories or letters to you. Write them down exactly
as he says them, and read them back to him, pointing to the words as you read.
• Read lots of short, simple books aloud, including alphabet books.
• Reread your child's favorite books as often as she asks (even if it starts
to drive you crazy).
• Leave magnetic letters on the refrigerator for your child to fool around
with.
• Talk about the sounds different letters make.
• Give alphabet puzzles, alphabet blocks, and books to your child for
birthday gifts and other special occasions.
• Make an audiotape of yourself reading your child's favorite book, so she
can listen to it while looking at the book, when you're not around.
MILESTONE 2: Your child pretends to read simple, repetitive books using his
memory.
How to help:
• Point to words as you read books, lists, labels, cards, signs, and even
cereal boxes to your child.
• Let him finish a familiar sentence in a book, or say a word that's
frequently repeated in a story every time you point to it (as in "Go, Dog.
Go" or "Green Eggs and Ham").
• Tape word labels (such as "door," "chair," or "bed") on different objects
around the house, or in your child's room.
• Teach your child to read her first name by writing it for her, labeling her
belongings, and having her outline the letters (for a sign in her room) with
beans, beads, crayons, or other art materials.
MILESTONE 3: Your child realizes that individual printed words represent
individual spoken words and begins to recognize and read a few — such as dog,
car, and no, plus his own name.
How to help:
• Read together every day.
• Encourage your child to point to words as he "reads" a book.
• Help her learn to write and identify upper- and lowercase letters.
• Teach him how to spell and write familiar words and names.
• Play word-related games (as in: "I'm going to eat something on this table
that begins with the letter B. Can you guess what it is?" or "Let's say all
the words we can think of that start with the letter T").
• Together, come up with a list of short, simple words that rhyme (such as
bat, cat, sat, rat, hat). Write them down in a column, so your child can see
how part of each word is similar.
MILESTONE 4: Your child can read simple, repetitive books using the text or
illustrations to figure out unfamiliar words.
How to help:
• Read a new book aloud several times before encouraging your child to tackle
it on his own.
• Listen to your child read and help — if asked — with problem words. Act
like it's no big deal if he misses some. Concentrate, instead, on making the
experience fun.
• If your child misses a lot of words while reading, and starts acting
frustrated, offer to take over the reading, or choose an easier book. Never
force your child to read a book that's too hard just because his friends can
read it, or his sister could when she was his age.
• Help your child write and read his own stories and books. Accept whatever
spellings she uses, even if it's only the initial letters of each word.
• Get your child her own library card
2. Treat your child as though he's an author
He doesn't have to be Hemingway or Shakespeare. All he has to do is grow up
thinking that he can put thoughts and words onto paper. And the sooner he
starts, the better.
As with reading, you can help in different ways, at different stages of
development. Look for these milestones, and use these tips:
MILESTONE 1: Your child can scribble or draw a picture and associate words
with the picture (such as, "This is the sun" or "This is me").
How to help:
• Provide lots of materials (paper, markers, crayons, paints, chalk, etc.)
and time for drawing.
• Ask your child to tell you about the pictures she draws, and label the
objects as she points them out.
• Ask your child to dictate stories or poems to go with the pictures he
draws, and write them down for him. Then, read his work aloud, exactly as he
dictated it.
MILESTONE 2: Your child begins to produce marks on a page that resemble
written words, and can "read" you what he's written.
How to help:
• Encourage your child to "read" you his words, and express your enjoyment
("What a wonderful story!" or "Thank you so much for sharing that with me").
• Keep providing the materials and time for your child to write her own
stories and books.
• Write stories and poems alongside your child, and read to her what you've
written (even if you think it's awful — your child won't judge it).
MILESTONE 3: Your child understands that sounds are represented by certain
letters, and begins to write actual letters to represent real words ("sn" for
sun, for instance).
How to help:
• Encourage your child to write notes, keep a journal, or write her own books.
• Offer to rewrite his words or sentences, using the real spellings.
• When reading together, point out how most sentences have the first letter
of the first word capitalized, spaces between each separate word, and a
period at the end.
• Mention who the author is when you read books together, and talk about what
authors (and illustrators) do. Point out that when your child writes stories,
he's an author, too.
3. Make math part of her everyday life
Leave the flashcards, workbooks, and other skill-and-drill stuff to the
teacher. At home, the best way to help your child learn to love math is to
play with numbers, and to frequently point out the various ways in which math
makes our lives easier. By working with tangible objects, and counting,
sorting, estimating, measuring, looking for patterns, and solving real-life
problems, children learn to think in mathematical terms, without worrying
whether or not they're "smart enough" to do math.
Almost anything you do that involves numbers and/or problem solving will
build your child's math skills. Here are just a few ideas to get you started:
• Have your child set the table (counting and sorting the sets of plates,
napkins, cups, and silverware).
• Post a running countdown of the days until her birthday. Let her change the
number each day.
• Challenge him to guess at things, and then find the answers. For example:
How many bowls of cereal do you think we can get out of this box? How many
M&Ms do you think are in your (snack size) bag? How many minutes do you think
it will take to clear off the table? Which of these cups do you think will
hold more juice?
• Play a copycat game, where one person creates a pattern (pat your head,
touch your knee, clap three times) and the other person has to repeat the
pattern three times in a row.
• Ask your child to help you create a pattern for a quilt square or an
abstract picture using markers and paper; construction paper in different
colors, cut into square, triangle, and other shapes; or shapes cut out of
different fabrics.
• Ask your child to measure things in non-traditional units. For example:
Let's see how many footsteps it takes to get from here to the door. Why do
you think it's more for you and fewer for me? How many action figures (or
Barbie dolls) long is this table?
• Have your child compare things: Which do you think is heavier — a cookie or
ten chocolate chips? Who do you think is taller, mom or dad? Which carrot is
longer? Fatter? Crunchier?
• Give your child problems to solve — and let her work them out by touching
and counting actual objects. For example: I have four cookies here, but two
people want to eat them. How many should each person get? If we invite six
kids to your birthday party, and put two candy bars in each kid's treat bag,
how many of these candy bars will we need?
4. Teach your child how to listen
Teachers who've been around for 15 or more years say they've seen a definite
decline in children's attention spans and listening skills since they first
started teaching. Many of them attribute it not only to the fast and
entertaining pace of television and computer games, but to the fact that many
children today don't have a lot of time to just sit around, listening and
talking to family members. Between parents' jobs and children's after-school
activities, it's hard, sometimes, to get everyone in the same room for a
family dinner once a week.
But being able to focus on what other people are saying is an important
element in learning. So, whenever possible, try to build your child's
listening skills. Here are some strategies that will help:
• Read aloud to your child on a regular basis — even after she has learned to
read by herself. Ask questions as you read, to make sure your child is
understanding what she hears.
• Limit television, computer, and video game time. While they're all
entertaining, and can even be educational, they tend to promote tunnel
vision. Make sure the time your child spends in front of a screen is balanced
by time spent with other people, talking face to face.
• When you speak to your child, make eye contact and gently touch his
shoulder or arm, to secure his attention.
• When giving directions, ask your child to repeat back to you what she heard
you say — to make sure she really did hear, and does understand what she
needs to do.
• Model good listening behaviors. When your child wants to talk to you, for
example, stop what you're doing and look at him while he's speaking. When
he's finished, say something that indicates you heard him, even if you only
repeat back what he said.
• Play talking and listening games with your child like Charades, Red
Light/Green Light, Duck, Duck, Goose, and Twenty Questions.
• Teach your child that even if an adult is saying something he finds boring,
he still needs to listen, look at the person, and show respect.
• Spend time with your child doing quiet activities that encourage
conversation, such as taking a walk together, taking a ride in the car,
folding laundry, picking strawberries, etc.
5. Support your child's teacher and the school rules
Even if you don't agree with them. It doesn't do any child any good to hear
her parents say that school is "a waste of time," that school rules
are "dumb," or that what she's learning is "stupid" or "useless." Your child
doesn't have a choice about going to school, so she might as well feel good
about where she's spending her time. She'll be more motivated to work hard
and succeed if she thinks you think that what she's doing is worthwhile.
So even if a school rule seems silly or unfair to you, or you think your
child's teacher is dead wrong about something, don't make a big issue about
it in front of your child. Instead, take your concerns straight to the source.
The key steps toward resolution
The best way to approach a problem or disagreement involving the school is
to:
• Make an appointment to see or speak to the teacher. For minor problems and
concerns, a telephone conference may be sufficient. But if you feel the issue
merits more serious discussion, arrange to meet with the teacher face to
face. Don't try to corner her before or after school, when her attention is
on the students. Instead, shoot for a time when she can give you her full
attention, and is less likely to be stressed or tense.
• Consider carefully what you want to say before you visit the school. Write
down a list of your concerns, and why they're concerns. Let your list rest
for a while, and then go back to it, when you're feeling calm and rational.
Try to frame all of your concerns in the most positive light possible, so you
won't immediately put the teacher on the defensive. For example, instead of
saying, "You're not doing anything to help my child improve in reading," you
should shoot for: "I'm really concerned about my child's progress in reading.
I wanted to check in with you to see if there's anything else that can be
done, at school and at home, to help her move forward."
If necessary, practice your spiel in front of a third party, to make sure you
don't sound too threatening. You may feel like blasting the teacher; you may
even have good reason to do so. But your child will not benefit in any way if
you alienate her teacher. Try to remember that the best school solutions come
when teacher and parent act as a team.
• When you meet with the teacher, voice your concerns in the least
threatening, most friendly tone you can muster. If you lose your temper, you
may lose the chance to be taken seriously. Remind yourself that your goal is
to help your child, not blow off steam. If possible, bring tangible evidence
to back up your side of the story.
• Prepare to listen to the teacher's side. There may be mitigating factors of
which you're unaware; you may have gotten the wrong information from your
child; there may be a miscommunication that's complicating the issue. Try to
be — and act — open-minded.
• If you and the teacher cannot come to a mutually satisfying solution,
enlist the principal (or the school's psychologist, or a learning
specialist). "I appreciate what you're saying, but I'm still concerned," you
might say. "I'd feel more comfortable if I got another opinion on the matter.
I'd like to meet with the principal." Or, if you're afraid the teacher will
take her anger at you out on your child (this shouldn't happen, but it
could), request an anonymous meeting with the principal. If the second
meeting doesn't help, the next step is to contact the superintendent. But
only you can decide whether or not that's necessary.
Sometimes you just have to accept a less-than-perfect teacher or classroom
situation. In most cases, it won't do permanent damage to your child, and it
may even help him develop some healthy coping skills. Also, sometimes things
that upset parents about school don't really bother the students. So you may
want to talk to your child first, before forging ahead with a complaint, or
requesting a transfer for your child. In some cases, moving a child from one
classroom to another mid-year would be worse — from the child's point of
view — than having him stick it out with a weak teacher.
On the other hand, you shouldn't feel intimidated by school personnel. If you
feel you have a legitimate complaint (or if your child's health, safety, or
welfare is at stake), and your gut keeps telling you to fight for your child,
you should do that. Just try to remember, at every step of the way, that the
less hostility you communicate, the more likely people will be to listen
carefully to your concerns, and work toward a mutually acceptable solution.
Let the power of persistence — rather than the impact of aggression — carry
your case.
If the teacher calls you
The steps outlined above should also be followed if the teacher calls you to
discuss problems your child is causing at school. Even if you think the
teacher is wrong, or your child insists that she's innocent, go into the
conference with your mind open and your demeanor calm and friendly. Most
teachers aren't "out to get" their students; they genuinely want to make the
child's school year a success.
6. Tell the teacher everything
That is, everything that's happening at home that might affect how your child
behaves in school. That includes positive changes (such as the birth of a
baby, a move to a bigger and better house, or even a vacation to Disney
World), as well as negative ones (a separation or divorce, a death or illness
in the family, a parent who's lost a job).
It's not that teachers are nosy. It's that most children are not terribly
skilled at handling excitement or coping with changes or stress. And they all
carry their baggage from home into the classroom. Even something little, like
a fight with a sibling in the car on the way to school, can affect a child's
behavior or performance at school.
If a teacher knows there's a problem or change at home, she's less likely to
react inappropriately when behavior goes awry at school. Under normal
circumstances, for instance, a dip in grades might prompt a teacher to
suggest extra help or tutoring. If she knows that the child just got a new
baby brother, however, she might react instead by pulling the child aside and
inviting her to talk about how she's feeling now that she's a big sister.
You needn't go into all of the gory details of what's happening at home,
either. All the teacher expects to hear is, "I just wanted to let you know
that we're moving to a new house next week, and Allan is pretty nervous about
the whole thing" or "If Sheila seems a little hyper these days it's because
her aunt is taking her to her first Broadway play this weekend."
What else do teachers want to know?
• How your child feels about school: Is she unhappy? Does she think it's too
hard? Is she complaining about it at home? Or does she like it? Is there some
special activity that she really enjoyed? Does she talk about the things she
learns in school? Most teachers would rather hear about problems sooner than
later, so they can work on turning things around as quickly as possible.
They — like the rest of us — also appreciate a kind or encouraging word now
and then. So don't forget to mention the good stuff.
• How your child feels about school friends: Is she making any? Does she feel
like a part of the class — or an outcast? Is she being teased or harassed? Is
she too shy to make new friends? Does she need to branch out from her one
best friend and get to know other kids? In elementary school, there is still
a lot teachers can do to mold social relationships. But they need to know
what the problem is before they can start to solve it.
• What your child's special passions are: Sometimes, a child who is a
reluctant reader can be drawn to books that speak to a special interest, such
as sports, or pirates, or ice skating, or animals. Or, a desire to write may
be stimulated by an invitation to describe one of the subjects your child
loves. Let the teacher know if there is something that really motivates your
child, so she can capitalize on it in the classroom.
• What your child's special needs are: That includes anything from allergies
to phobias, physical or medical conditions, learning problems or preferences,
special talents, emotional concerns, and behavioral patterns. If you think an
issue might come up in these or other areas, let the teacher know.
7. Make sure your child is ready for school
All through elementary school, it's the parent's job to make sure a child:
• Gets to bed at a reasonable hour. That means around 7:30 to 8 p.m. Children
who regularly go to bed later on school nights have a hard time keeping up in
school, teachers say. They end up being tired and grouchy, they're more
likely to have behavioral problems, and they aren't able to fulfill their
academic potential. Even sleep specialists are now beginning to believe that
certain behavioral and learning problems among children are the result of
undetected sleep deprivation.
The bottom line is that a good night's sleep is the best guarantee of a
pleasant and productive day at school.
• Eats a filling and nutritious breakfast. Children who skip breakfast may
not feel hungry when they first get to school, but according to teachers,
they usually hit a slump around mid-morning and can't keep their minds on
schoolwork, until sometime after lunch.
If your child doesn't like the traditional foods kids eat for breakfast, let
him eat what he does like. There's nothing nutritionally wrong with eating
pizza or a peanut butter sandwich in the morning. Or, if all else fails, send
him to school with a breakfast bar and a box of juice, so he can get
something in his belly before the first bell rings.
• Wears the proper clothes for both the day's activities and the weather. A
kid who goes to school without mittens, a hat, or boots in the winter may
have to sit inside for recess while her classmates spend their excess energy
on the playground. A child who doesn't have shorts and sneakers on gym day
may end up sitting on the sidelines, while everyone else is running around
having fun.
Children don't always have the best judgment when it comes to protective
clothing. (If it's warm in the house, they assume it's going to be warm
outside, for example.) And they don't always remember which days they have
gym or other special activities. So it's up to you to tell your child what to
expect in terms of weather, and what to wear — or at least bring — to school.
• Labels all belongings. That includes his backpack, lunch box, books, school
supplies, art smock — and any other piece of clothing or personal item that
might somehow get separated from him during the school day.
• Has a lunch or lunch money. Most children aren't thinking about lunch when
they run out to meet the bus or jump in the car in the morning. It's your job
to either make it, take it, or remind your child to remember about lunch.
• Puts her homework in her backpack, to bring to school.
• Remembers to bring special supplies for special days. There's nothing more
devastating to a young child than to be the only kid who forgot his teddy
bear on the day the class was having a teddy bear picnic at school. Or to
show up on picture day wearing his rattiest clothes. These are the kinds of
details most kids (and parents) have a hard time remembering. So it's your
job to find a way to help you both stay on top of teacher requests. Hang up a
big calendar with important dates circled in red, for instance, or put up
post-it notes on the bathroom mirror the night before a special day at school.
• Knows exactly who will pick her up and what will happen when the school day
ends. Children will worry all day long if they don't know what to expect when
that final bell rings. So remind your child when she's leaving home: "I'll
see you at the corner when the bus drops you off at three p.m." If you
anticipate any change in the daily routine, or in the person greeting your
child after school, make sure you give plenty of notice.
• Gets to school on time — every day. Chronic lateness is not only disruptive
to the entire class, it can make a child feel out-of-step all day. Plus, it
sends a message that school is not important enough to be on time for.
8. Spend time in your child's classroom
Even if it's only once a year, and you have to take a half-day off from work
to do it. All children get a real thrill when they see their parent in their
classroom. It sends a powerful message that you care about your child, and
about her education.
Seeing the classroom firsthand is also the best way for you to get a
perspective on what and how the teacher is teaching, what kinds of challenges
the teacher is facing, what the class chemistry is, how your child fits in
within the group, and how she interacts with specific peers. Plus, it will
give you a better idea of the kinds of questions you should ask to draw your
child out when talking about school.
In most schools, you don't need an excuse to visit the classroom. Just ask
the teacher if you can come in and observe. If you want an excuse, volunteer.
Teachers are always looking for parents to:
• Share expertise in a particular subject area related to your job or hobbies
• Read to children
• Conduct writing workshops, or help children "publish" their books
• Tutor kids who need extra help, or work with a small group of advanced
students in math or other subjects
• Chaperone field trips
• Sew costumes for a school play, bake cupcakes for a party, or cut out paper
shapes for a class project
• Type up a classroom newsletter or literary magazine
If you have lots of time to give, you might consider:
• Being a "class parent" (the person who acts as a liaison between the
teacher and the other parents — rounding up chaperones for school trips, for
instance, or finding volunteers to bake for the class bake sales)
• Being a playground monitor
• Joining the school's parent/teacher association
• Joining the principal's school advisory committee (if there is one)
• Running for your local school board
At the very least, you should plan to make time to attend:
• Special events to which parents are invited (a Mother's Day brunch,
prepared by the children, for instance; or a Writer's Tea, at which children
read their stories aloud to their parents)
• Special school events, such as the annual Holiday Show or Spring Musical
• The school's annual open house
• All of the scheduled parent/teacher conferences
9. Encourage responsibility and independence
Both of these are essential to independent learning. And both will make it
easier for your child to adjust to the demands of school, and get along with
his teacher and classmates. So, whenever possible, let your child do things
for himself — and for others.
For example, encourage him to:
• Play an active role in getting ready for school. That includes picking out
school clothes (preferably the night before), getting up on time (using an
alarm clock, if necessary), getting dressed, washing up and brushing his
teeth, getting his own breakfast ready, making up his bed, and checking to
make sure he has everything he needs in his backpack. Once your child is
physically capable of doing these things, let him take charge. If necessary,
make him a checklist to help him remember everything that needs to be done.
• Develop a homework routine. While there's no set formula, it will help if
your child has a regular time and place to do her homework each day. That way
she's less likely to forget to do it, and less likely to fight about doing
it "later on."
• Unpack his own backpack. Teach him that as soon as he gets home from
school, he should unpack his backpack, put his homework materials in his
homework place, and hand you (or put in a special place) any newsletters,
notes from the teacher, papers to sign, or special work he's brought home.
Then he can watch TV, or have his snack, or do whatever else is planned.
If you make this part of a daily routine, you're less likely to be hit during
the morning rush with, "Oh, no! I'm supposed to bring in cupcakes for the
party today" or "Today's the day you're supposed to come to school for our
science fair."
• Pick up her own mess. That includes toys scattered on the living room
floor, bikes, and roller skates left out on the driveway, and wet towels left
cold and lonely on the bathroom floor. It may take longer and require more
effort for you to insist that your child pick things up herself, but in the
long run it's better for her than having you always do it. In school, she
won't have a choice.
• Get involved in family meals. Young children can set the table or help with
the grocery list.
• Perform regular chores that benefit the entire family. Even little things
like taking out the trash regularly will help your child see herself as part
of a larger family team. It will also build her sense of competence and
confidence.
10. Ask your child about school every day
It isn't always easy to get the scoop on school from your own child. If you
ask a perfectly normal, sincere question like, "What did you do at school
today?", you're likely to get the classic response: "Nothing."
One reason is that so many things happen in the classroom that it's hard for
the average child to answer a question like that. She can't remember
everything she did, and even if she could, she wouldn't know where to start.
It doesn't help to ask, "What did you learn at school today?" or "How was
school today?" either. Both will elicit one-word answers ("Nothing"
or "Fine"), because they're too broad and too vague for most children to
process.
But it's still important to ask about school, because it teaches your child
that school is important, and that you really are interested in her life. So
how can you get your child to open up? Here's what other parents say really
works:
• Don't ask too soon. "When my son gets off the bus, the last thing he wants
to do is talk about school," says parent Mary Mitchell. "He's too busy
thinking about playing with his toys or visiting his friends. So I've learned
to let him chill out and play awhile before asking any questions."
• Develop a ritual. "For some reason, the only time my 5-year-old son, Jack,
really opens up about school is when he's taking a bath," says mother Tamara
Eberlein. "So every night, when he gets into the tub, my husband sits with
him for ten or fifteen minutes, and Jack tells him everything that happened
at school. He really looks forward to that time with his father."
"For my son, the magic moment is bedtime," says parent Charles James. "He's
probably just trying to stall me, so he can stay up later. But when he's all
tucked in and the lights are off, I hear the most detailed descriptions about
school."
• Ask specific questions. "I get the best responses when I ask my son about
something I'm pretty sure he did at school that day," says parent Julie
Ritzer Ross. For instance: "Did the teacher read any new books today? Did you
learn any new songs during music class? Who sat next to you at lunch?" The
more specific you can be, the better.
• Read everything the teacher sends home. "The notes and newsletters that
come home in my son's backpack are really the most reliable sources of
information," says Charles James. "I find out what my son is learning about,
what's coming up in terms of special events or field trips, what kind of help
the teacher could use in the classroom, and what I can do at home to
reinforce what my son is learning in school. It's not always easy to find
time to read them, but it's worth the effort because it helps me fill in the
blanks from conversations with my son."
• Give your child space. Some children like to think of school as their own
private world, where their parents and siblings can't intrude. If your child
is like that, don't push. Let him know you're interested in his school day,
and let him approach you if he has anything really important to share. Then
stay in touch behind the scenes with the teacher, to make sure everything's
going okay.