Parent Letter for Kelso's Choice Lessons
Dear Hillside Family,
The School Counselor taught a guidance lesson in your child’s classroom about anger management and solving conflicts with others. Your child saw a video called Ten Ways to Cool Off. The video dealt with the problem of anger, ways to keep it from getting out of control and strategies to solve conflicts.
Here are some ways to “cool off” that your child learned in the video. Please reinforce
these points by discussing them with your child.
• Stop and freeze
• Count to ten
• Take slow, deep breaths
• Walk away and take time to think about the problem
• Wait to talk until you are calm
• Ask questions instead of making statements when you are angry with someone
• Talk to someone about how you feel
• Write about how you feel
• Burn up the angry energy inside you by riding a bike, jumping rope, or
doing something else active.
Here are some ways that you can help your child when he or she is feeling angry.
• Encourage your child to use the strategies above to calm down BEFORE talking
• Ask your child to tell you why he or she is angry. If your child is reluctant to talk
to you, suggest that he or she discuss the problem with another parent, or an
older sibling. Emphasize the point that talking about the anger will help.
• If your child seems unaware of what is causing the anger, help him/her identify
the problem. You might ask, “When did you start to feel angry? What happened
just before that?” or “Can you describe the way you are feeling? Why do you think
you feel this way?”
• Role play different situations with your child, practicing techniques that your child
can use in actual situations.
• Praise your child for their ability to recognize their anger, take steps to reduce it
and solve their problems peacefully