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Thanks again, The folks at TeacherWeb Visit the TeacherWeb® videos to learn about the features, modifications, and customizations available on your website. Click here to learn more. Parenting small medium large 20 THINGS TO DO INSTEAD OF PUNISHMENT, BY ALETHA SOLTER, Ph.D. 1. LOOK FOR UNDERLYING NEEDS. ExaExample: Give your child something to play with while waiting in line. 2. GIVE INFORMATION AND REASONS. Example: If your child colors on the wall, explain why we color on paper only. 3. LOOK FOR UNDERLYING FEELINGS. Acknowledge, accept & listen to feelings. Example: If your child hits his baby sister, encourage him to express his anger and jealousy in harmless ways. He may need to cry or rage. 4. CHANGE THE ENVIRONMENT. This is sometimes easier than trying to change the child. Example: If your child repeatedly takes things out of the kitchen cupboards, put a childproof lock on them. 5. FIND ACCEPTABLE ALTERNATIVES. Redirect your child's behavior. 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